Cultivating Lasting Friendships Through Healing and Neuroplasticity

Did you know that your brain has an incredible ability to change?

It's called neuroplasticity, and it plays a fascinating role in our emotional and relational well-being, especially from a biblical perspective. I wanted to share this insight with you because I believe it sheds light on how we can cultivate lasting and intimate friendships. 

When we're born, our amygdala, the part of our brain that is responsible for our fight-or-flight response and basic needs, is fully functional. Alongside it, the hippocampus, which helps regulate emotions and contextualize experiences, is less developed but grows over time. These two brain regions work together, with the hippocampus reassuring the amygdala that we're safe and okay.

However, trauma and experiences of powerlessness can disrupt this communication.The gap between the amygdala and the hippocampus widens, making it harder for us to feel safe in various situations, whether it's in a small group setting or within our closest relationships.

Here's the exciting part: Through safe experiences and sharing our stories in supportive environments, we can facilitate healing.

When we bring our past experiences into the present, acknowledge them, and grieve them in a safe space, the hippocampus and the amygdala begin to reconnect. They start communicating effectively again, bringing regulation, integration, and peace (shalom) back to our brains. 

This process aligns beautifully with the biblical concept of renewing our minds. It shows us that healing isn't just spiritual; it's also neurological. As we engage in this healing journey, we become more capable of forming and sustaining deep, authentic friendships. We learn to navigate our emotions better, set healthy boundaries, and trust others more fully. 

I hope this perspective encourages you as much as it has inspired me. Let's continue to pursue healing and growth together, knowing that God has designed us for community and connection.

In it with you, 

Karrie Garcia
Founder of Freedom Movement