Friendship is HARD

When a newer friend recently reached out, wanting to attend a conference together and share a room, the idea of deepening our connection in this way filled me with excitement and anticipation - but familiar doubts quickly crept into my mind, deflating my initial enthusiasm.

This single sentence comes packed with the weight of past experiences, proving itself true on more than one occasion, leaving me feeling as though I am "too much." These storied moments have left a lasting mark, leading to hesitation in friendships.

My story significantly influences how I approach relationships. I’ve often found myself keeping one foot in and one foot out, anticipating when those I care about will turn their backs and walk away. How can God have designed me for relationship when my previous experiences have been so painful? 

The truth is, God’s design for healing often comes through community, while the enemy works tirelessly to keep us isolated. 

Difficulties in relationships often stem from unhealed wounds, leading us to place burdens on those around us to soothe or fix what feels broken. This creates an overwhelming pressure that can push others further away. If you find yourself struggling to connect in healthy ways, I encourage you to ask God, “Where are the unhealed places in my story that need tending to?”

As we allow God to heal our wounds, we can show up honestly in relationships - giving space for others to hold our hearts without being responsible to fix them. This paves the way for deeper, more fulfilling partnerships, and empowers you to take courageous steps toward being known and loved.

How can YOU partner with God in your own care and healing?

Take time for self-reflection and prayer, asking God to reveal unhealed places in your story that need tending to and healing.

Engage in a supportive community and seek out individuals or groups who can provide a safe space for healing and growth.

Practice vulnerability with trusted individuals, allowing yourself to be known and loved, while understanding that they are not responsible for fixing you.

I did attend the conference with that new friend, and I now have a flourishing relationship with someone who has become very dear. I want to encourage you not to give up on what your heart truly needs. Seek healing for those deep places of pain, so that you can fully embrace the richness of connection as it was intended.

In it with you,
Karrie Garcia
Founder of FREEDOM MOVEMENT