Holding Your Story Through The Holidays

The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time, but let’s be honest—sometimes, they’re complicated. We carry expectations to show up, engage, and “be merry,” even in spaces that don’t always feel loving or kind. Maybe it’s the same old arguments, the subtle jabs, or even moments when your story—your real, painful story—has become a joke to others.

If you’ve ever walked into a holiday gathering feeling like your past is still very much a part of your present, you’re not alone. Our stories shape how we navigate relationships and moments like these. But here’s the good news: your story doesn’t have to define how this season plays out.

So, how can you approach the holidays when your past feels heavy?

Here are a few friendly, practical steps to help you feel more grounded and in control this season:
 

1. Acknowledge Your Story
First, take a moment to honor what you’ve been through. If there are parts of your story that still sting—places where you’ve been hurt or misunderstood—recognize how they’ve shaped how you show up. It’s okay to feel those emotions. Acknowledging them doesn’t mean dwelling on the pain; it means being honest with yourself.

2. Set Boundaries
You don’t have to engage in every conversation, especially the ones that hurt. It’s perfectly okay to say, “I’d rather not discuss that right now.” Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about protecting your peace and creating space for healthier interactions.

3. Take Control Of Your Time
You get to decide when you arrive, how long you stay, and when it’s time to leave. If things become overwhelming, give yourself permission to step away—whether it’s for a quick breath in the other room or an early exit. Remember, you’re an adult now, and you get to make decisions that honor your emotional well-being.

4. Give Yourself Room To Pause
If the environment becomes too much, take a moment to center yourself. Step outside, breathe deeply, and remind yourself that you are not the same person you were in those past moments. You’ve grown, and you have the power to respond differently.

5. Embrace Your Agency
Your story is still part of you, but it doesn’t have to control you. You have agency—God has given you a voice and the ability to make choices that align with what’s best for you. As you navigate the season, remember that you get to set the tone for how you engage.


The holidays are a time of connection, and while it's not always easy, it's still possible to find joy and community in the midst of it all.
 

My hope for you this season is that you’ll embrace your story with grace, set boundaries that protect your peace, and celebrate from a place of wholeness.

God is at work healing your story. Lean into His love and know that you have the freedom to create a holiday season that feels healthy and meaningful for you.

In it with you, 

Karrie
Freedom Coach & Founder of Freedom Movement